Now, While You Can

$45.00

This is a four-session, structured course that walks you through the essential conversations aging adults need to have with their adult children — and gives you the language, the frameworks, and the confidence to actually have them.

Each session comes with a substantive handout you work through on your own, at your own pace. The material is honest, practical, and direct — designed for people who are serious about doing this right.

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All materials provided are solely for educational purposes and do not constitute legal or tax advice.

About mary l. flett, phd

Dr. Mary is a psychologist with 30 years of clinical experience in aging and later life. She is the creator of the Five Pillars of Aging framework and shares her knowledge and experience through these self-paced courses, in her long-running blog on aging, and as a national speaker. Now retired from private practice, she consults with non-profits and policy advocates from her home in the Bay Area. Learn more and explore the full range of topics in her Lecture Library at drmaryflett.com

Take a look at what you’ll get . . .

SESSION 1

Why these conversations matter

You know these conversations are important — you wish your parents had had them with you! But you find yourself avoiding them. Understand what’s really driving the avoidance — on your side and theirs. Identify the gaps in what your children currently know. Leave with a clear first step.

SESSION 2

What should I say?

How to choose the right moment, the right setting, and the right opening. Learn what to do when your kids cry, get angry, shut down, or try to take over. Practice until it feels possible using prompts and examples that will help you remove the barrier to your connecting on a whole different level with your children than ever before.

SESSION 3

Living well on my own terms

This is the heart of the course. What does quality of life actually mean to you — not medically, but in terms of how you want to spend your days? Who will fight for that definition when you can’t? Work through the explicit and implicit expectations that come with being a healthcare proxy, the financial agent, and the “I’m not going to a nursing home!” agent before they become urgent.

SESSION 4

After I’m gone

Wills, trusts, executors, beneficiary designations, document locations, funeral wishes — and the legacy that doesn’t go through probate. Leave your people ready, not scrambling. These are the tedious details of death. They are more than things; they are emotional triggers that may bring healing or rifts. Why take the chance, when a conversation might make acceptance of the inevitable easier.

Built Around Three Central Questions:

What makes a day worth living? What would you refuse to give up? What do you want the people who love you to fight for on your behalf?